Over 50 and Looking For Something. But What?

Are you over 50 and looking for something but really don’t know what?

Over 50

Peanut Butter & Jelly SandwichMany of us go through life believing we are “on track”. On track for what? All of a sudden we reach 50 and the kids are gone. For many of us, our parents are gone and others are feeling like PB & J. Squished between the demands of our children and our parents if they are still with us.

We reach that time in our lives when the kids are grown enough that they don’t need us the same way any more. For some, our parents have become the needy “kids” in our lives and create demands on our time. Regardless, we “The Sandwich Generation” find ourselves redefining who we are and where we are headed. Somehow I’ll bet that most of us aren’t where we thought we would be at this point in our lives.

  • Pensions may not afford us the financial resources to have true financial freedom to travel at will.
  • The kids’ students loans are crushing them and we aren’t able to help.
  • Our parents need our help physically and in some cases, financially.

Most of us are in various stages at this point in our lives.So much for that dream of independence and being white haired jet setters we had when we were young adults!  Some are lucky enough to have great pensions, the mortgage is paid and parents are the jet setters we want to be. Others have remortgaged their homes, maybe more than once, to help with the kids’ educations, weddings or first home purchases. Still others are working more than one job just to keep roof over their heads.

What are you looking for?

  • A new life partner?
  • New friends with shared interests?
  • Extra income to meet current financial obligations?
  • Building a retirement income?
  • All of the above?

A New Life Partner

love-1643452_640First, let me say, I can’t really offer experienced advice in this area. I am lucky enough to have been married now for over 28 years to a wonderful woman and don’t foresee ever being in this position. All I can say is that if I were looking for a new life partner, I would first need to identify what my passions are and then put myself in situations where I meet others with like interests. The fact that they are out there would in and of itself mean we have commonality.

New friends with shared interests

CoachesI don’t know about you but when I was younger, my parents used to tell me that friends will come and go throughout my life. They were right. When my kids were younger, three out of four were involved in competitive soccer. I ended up managing a rep team, coaching indoor house league teams and generally facilitating their sports activities. As a result of the time required, we made our friends there.

Now, all of our kids are grown and doing very different things. As much as I miss those friends, we no longer have the same commonalities. We still talk once in a while but life has moved on. We now find ourselves looking to meet new people at a similar point in their lives to spend time with.

Extra income to meet current financial obligations

When I started my first full time job, I thought I would be retiring at 65 with a full pension and never expected to do anything different. Surprise! That company laid me off during the 80’s when they were trying to survive. I went to work for a competitor who ended up buying them out. By the mid 90’s, it happened again. I was “downsized”.

Two careers later, disaster struck our family and my business ended drying up. I went back to my roots to at least put some bread on the table. I was surrounded by other men in very similar circumstances, working as much as three part time jobs trying to make one income. I was lucky enough to find a job with a pension but it will be much smaller than originally expected and I will need to find another source to supplement my retirement income.

Building a retirement income

CompensationThere are definitely other options. You just need to open your mind to possibilities.

First thing to decide is if you will retire or re-engage. Some will have to take yet another job in retirement in order to survive and/or have anything for extras like vacation and travel. Whatever happened to that just being an expected outcome of years of working? Others will start a business of some kind.

I would suggest that you keep your mind open to different options. The author of Rich Dad, Poor Dad, Robert Kyosaki advocates that you consider MLM as a way to get seed money for other investments. From there you may decide to open a bricks and mortar operation, invest in stocks or just enjoy the residual income from that business.

All of the above

What if someone is in a situation where it’s all of the above?

Don’t let that scare you. Believe it or not, I have met people in one of our businesses where they were exactly that and they have found a partner, earned a living and built an ongoing and residual income that will not only look after them but will actually let them leave a legacy.

Whatever your situation, I advise working on yourself first. A saying I heard that resonates for me is “become the person you want to attract”. Read good books, watch good videos and put yourself around good people. Did you know that if you read 10-15 pages of a book every day that you would complete at least 10 books a year? Don’t let the job of becoming your best you be intimidating and don’t let the crabs hold you back. Start reading!

Best of luck on this journey we call life and if you think I could help, reach out!

Make it a great day,

Barry

P.S What am I thankful for today? I’m thankful for open minds, great books and great mentors. What are you thankful for today?

Leave The Junk In The Trunk!

We all carry junk. Whether it’s the person that just cut you off on the way to a meeting or you just had a fight with your partner, leave your junk in the trunk!

What Do You Mean By Junk?

When I talk about junk, I’m referring to all that negative stuff that gathers throughout our day.

  • junkYour partner is mad at you because you didn’t put out the garbage
  • Your teenager is mad at you because you said no!
  • You’re mad at your business partners because you don’t like the direction they want to go.
  • You were just pulled over speeding on the way to your meeting.

In the grand scheme of things, how much of this really matters? I don’t see how much of the above is really life threatening or changing. I have to say, for the most part, it’s just junk. Junk happens.

Junk Collection

Some of us seem to go out looking for junk to collect. Others seem to attract it. Either way, most of us have certain amounts of junk in our lives. Whatever you do, don’t look in my garage! The biggest challenge is deciding what junk to keep and where to put it.

Imagine one of those days when you are late leaving for an important meeting. You are presenting to your team who looks to you to set the example. Half way out the door, you spill coffee on your white shirt. Now you have lost 10 minutes changing. The time pressure causes you to put a little pressure on the gas pedal and the cop behind you doesn’t think it’s a good idea. There goes another 20 minutes and likely more than a few dollars. Now you’re mad!

Junk In The Trunk

car trunkRemember, the most important element in leadership is duplication. Whatever you do, there is a good chance they will copy. It’s quite OK to get mad, even healthy. The trick is to learn how to put it away when it’s in the way.

Imagine you have decided to clean out the car because you are taking prospects or clients to your meeting. Inevitably, we find a lot of junk we didn’t even realize was in there. All of a sudden you realize you only have a few minutes before you have to leave. You have a bag full of junk but you don’t have time to sort it out for recycle, resell or reuse. What to do? Put your junk in the trunk. Deal with it after the meeting is over and there is no one around to see you dealing with your junk.

The Direction of Junk

Never dump your junk downward. Just as you shouldn’t expect your kids to clean up your mess, you shouldn’t expect the people you are training to deal with your junk.

For example, my wife and I work as a team. There are times when we agree to clean up after each other in order to achieve a combined goal. Unless the kids have been working directly with me and contributed to the mess, I don’t ask them to clean it up. That just creates resentment and then perpetuates the problem for generations to come. On the other hand, it’s quite OK for my kids to come to me for help when they just feel overwhelmed and can’t figure something out.

It’s the same in business, MLM or otherwise. We are directors in our business. If I need to dump on someone, it’s executive director or higher. It’s their responsibility to help me work through things when I feel overwhelmed and yes, sometimes it may be personal. I will do the same for the people who look up to me for leadership.

A true leader knows when it’s time to leave the junk in the trunk!

Make it a great day,

Barry

P.S. What am I thankful for today? I’m thankful for great leadership, great business partners and each new day. What are you thankful for today?

Pure Leverage

Opportunity abounds. What’s at the end of your rainbow?

We are faced with endless opportunities and yet never seem to reach the end of the rainbow. What’s at the end of the rainbow? Is it possible that we just don’t see it?

OPPORTUNITY

Isn’t it funny that we perk right up at the sight of rainbows? All of a sudden, we believe in opportunity. There is treasure at the end of those rainbows!

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As we try to reach the end of the rainbow, it seems to keep moving on us. Where are those treasures? Could it be that we ran right through or past them?

Too often, we are focused on what we perceive as problems rather than looking at them as challenges that lead to greater rewards. Take a look at this picture of the double rainbows. They occurred on the way home from work. We were on a Greyhound bus and worrying about the wet roads and dreading another rainy evening. All of a sudden, the clouds broke and double rainbows appeared. Glorious!

Much like life in general, we had to go through a storm before the rainbows appeared. They won’t appear on a clear, dry and sunny day. It was worth sitting through the storm. Besides, the sound of rain pounding on the bus can actually be quite soothing if you choose to hear it that way.

CHALLENGES

Many times as we go through different challenges:

  • we meet new people,
  • travel to new places,
  • and learn new things.

What was perceived to be an obstacle or challenge was actually an opportunity for adventure and personal growth. Think about those who are into physical fitness. The first time they go to the gym, they wonder if they will make it home to bed when they are done. Each time, it becomes easier. Eventually they are doing far more than they ever believed possible. They will challenge themselves to go longer or lift more. Treat your business like the gym. It’s doing the things that others won’t that leads to success.

Keep your mind and heart open to new opportunities!

Make it a great day,

Barry

P.S. What am I thankful for today? I’m thankful for challenges, people and leadership. What are you thankful for today?

The Sales Profession and The Power of One

The sales profession can be one of the most rewarding and yet frustrating. Remove the frustration by harnessing the power of one.

The Sales Profession

001_56First, let me address the reference to sales being a profession. There are many like doctors and lawyers who may challenge the combination of sales and professional in the same sentence. They are wrong. People in the sales profession are committed to their particular service or product. Just as a doctor, at least the good ones, believe in what they do. If you are a committed sales professional, you are always striving to improve, not just your numbers but to improve yourself. Whether you are attending seminars and workshops, watching video online or reading, improving yourself can’t help but improve you as a sales professional.

While working on improving ourselves, we are trying to land that whale of a client that is going to solve our financial challenges, and then continue looking for that next whale. The problem is most of us are looking for a way to swallow that whale whole.

The trick to eating a whale is the power of one. One bite at a time.

The Power of One

CompensationMy friend Bill Guyther with LegalShield was in the Toronto area yesterday and did a great training session when he introduced “The Power of One”. He talked about eating an elephant one bite at a time. The bite he referred to is getting the opportunity to present, ideally in a face to face sit down. For some, it may be getting approval to send an email or connect via social media to have a discussion specifically for business. Win one meeting at a time and so on.

Bill used the example of doubling one penny every day. Day one was a penny, day 2 was 2 cents. At the end of 31 days, you would have approximately $10.7 million. Miss the last day, you only have half. To get any result, you have to start with ONE! In the example above, it was one CENT. It wasn’t even a DOLLAR. Bite off what you can chew. As Bill suggested, work on winning the meeting, not the sale. I’m sure you have been to enough sales training to know that sales is the result of activity.

Do enough approaches to win a meeting, do enough meetings to win a sale. Do enough sales to make a great living as a sales professional. Note the power of one at work here, it all started with one call. Focus on winning enough meetings and you will get the sales.

Will you make that one call? And then the next one?

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Make it a great day!

Barry

P.S. What am I thankful for today? I’m thankful for great leaders. I’m thankful for opportunity. I’m thankful for every new day. What are you thankful for today?

DM or PM, How Private Is It?

DM (Direct Message) or PM (Private Message) is only as private as the sender and receiver want it to be. By the way, the same can be said for email!

DM (Direct Message) or PM (Private Message)

DM or messageFacebook and Twitter both have a DM option, Facebook Messenger or Twitter Direct Message.

One of the challenges is that both have the option to create a group message. Sometimes we forget it was a group message and use the same message to respond to an individual. Oops! Everyone saw that message. Make sure you know who is receiving it.

How private is it really?

Some things to remember:

Pick up the phone to arrange a meeting! Or, connect on FaceTime or whatever it takes to see the person you are talking to. I would suggest a phone call to win a face to face conversation would be best when something is really important.

Email

We sometimes forget that email is not really private. For example, many forget that if you send work related email through a personal account, it can be subject to Freedom of Information requests. NEVER, EVER send business email from or to a personal account. Just ask Hilary Clinton!

Even if you don’t care if your message is received properly, you should care that it can come back and be made part of the public record.

Words Matter!

My Own Meeting graphicCommunicate responsibly. Sure, there are times you won’t care that you offend or upset someone. They hurt you, why shouldn’t you hurt them? First off, two wrongs don’t make a right. Secondly, although we have freedom of expression, we don’t have the right to slander or libel someone.

Words, whether in a DM or face to face can hurt deeply. At least when we are facing someone, we can get a better perception of their intent giving us a chance to clarify before something gets blown way out of proportion.

When your message is important, do it face to face. Too far away? Travel digitally. There are many tools these days that can bridge the gap when you can’t go and physically knock on the door.

Communication isn’t that difficult in a technical sense, the greatest issue is having the guts to face someone for a difficult conversation. DM me to get my attention, call me to arrange a meeting, look me in the eye so I can see your whole message.

If you ever want to talk, DM me! Click the image below to get to my other site and use the social media links from there!

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Make it a great day,

Barry

P.S. What am I thankful for today? I’m thankful for you! I’m thankful for online conferencing. I’m thankful for every new day.

What are you thankful for today?