LSD: Love, Sex and Dating

LSD

What is LSD?

I was at Connexus this past Sunday and they were starting a new series by Andy Stanley* called  “The new rules for Love, Sex and Dating”  This should be required viewing for all teenagers, otherwise known as walking hormones!  Rating alert, this video should be considered PG13.

10-28-2010 08;47;20PM_1Andy was probably totally unaware that when the video panned to him, it cut off the screen a couple of times and all that was left in view were the letters LSD.  Was he hinting that love is the drug?  Love can be very exhilarating but just like the high from bad drugs, it can be very depressing when you come down from the initial high.  It takes a lot of work to maintain that high.  Being addicted to love is totally OK as long as you understand the work involved in maintaining the relationship.

Love

Falling in love is easy.  Staying in love takes a lot of work.

In “The Right Person Myth“, Andy talks about how your past affects your future.  I love his statement:  The present will be your past which will be present in your future”.  We all forget that The Slight Edge decisions we make every day will show up again.  Look to Andy’s series on Guard Rails where he talks about something as simple as going for coffee with a person of the opposite sex at work.  That “past” can carry over to your future and take your relationships right off the rails.  Pay attention to your present because it will become your past and it will show up in your future!*

Sex

Let’s not confuse sex and love.  Sex is a physical reaction in response to environmental stimuli.  For married people, when the sex seems to become less frequent or exciting, it’s usually a symptom that something else is wrong.  Sometimes, we miss the symptoms and then find ourselves feeling neglected when it may actually be us that is the one guilty of neglect.

One day, you may be in a new and exciting environment and find yourself attracted to a special person.  You may be spending quality time with someone special and that creates an exciting environment.  If your current relationship has lost its lustre, maybe you need to find out what has changed or needs to be changed.  Do you really need to go find a new relationship because it’s too difficult to fix the existing one?

Too many times, I have seen men leave their wife because their relationship has lost the spark that lit their fire.  Have you ever noticed that if you fan the embers in a fire, it lights up way easier than starting a new fire from scratch?  Fan the embers, light her up and before long, there will be a fire so intense, people will be drawn to the heat and asking how you did it!

Dating

If you are in the dating arena, we all set out to find the right person.  We date one after another, until we finally think we found him or her.  What an exhausting exercise!

I love Andy’s advice here, “become the person you are looking for“.

My personal experience is that I met my wife, the love of my life, when I gave up looking and just decided to be the best person I could be and take what came.  All of a sudden, my wife just appeared!  Seemingly out of nowhere, a gift from God at just the right time in my life.

Watch Andy’s presentation:  The new rules for Love, Sex and Dating

Make it a great day!

Barry

P.S.  What am I thankful for today?  I’m thankful for my beautiful wife.  I’m thankful for opportunities to improve.  I’m thankful for people like Andy Stanley.

What are you thankful for today?

*Andy Stanley is the Lead Minister for North Point Ministries.  North Point Ministries, Inc., was founded in 1995 with the vision of creating churches that un-churched people love to attend. Since its inception, NPM has grown from one church to five in metro-Atlanta and has developed a global network of more than thirty strategic partner churches.