Do you think your background has any effect on you?

What effect does your background have on you?

pics for grandma 015The effect of my personal background on me became evident when I recently attended a training session on presenting.  We were a very diverse ethnic and age group with very different histories.

During the session, we were practicing speaking.  Our instructor provided us with a copy of a speech delivered by Sir Winston Churchill during the Second World War.  I don’t remember the words right now but I remember the feeling.

Both of my grandfathers fought in that war and as a result, I grew up with a great awareness of Sir Winston Churchill and had heard recordings of his speeches.  I also feel very strongly about these men of valor and the cause they fought for.

When my turn came to speak, I felt the sense of pride flood into me as I delivered the words of Sir Winston Churchill. You could feel his spirit and you could see the room respond.

When younger people, particularly from other cultures, read the words, you couldn’t feel much passion and it was difficult to stay tuned in.  When the older people in the group read the words, you could tell they felt what they were saying and passed that onto you.  Where you come from, and I don’t necessarily mean geographically, makes all the difference in the effect you will have on others.

Do you have crabs? (No, not that kind!)

I’m referring to the story about crabs in a bucket!

Crabs in a bucket.

By Nicole Shapiro

By Nicole Shapiro

When you put a bunch of crabs in a bucket, they will try to climb out.  If one starts to get some traction, the rest will grab on and end up pulling the first one back down.

When you are a person who has the motivation to change their situation, it’s often family and friends that become the crabs in your life.  They’re the voices that get stuck in your head asking:

  • “Isn’t that really risky?” or
  • “What if it doesn’t work?” or
  • “Isn’t that one of those pyramid schemes?”.

Don’t let them pull you back down!

Difficult choices.

Who will you believe?  When you look at the position those same people are in, have they achieved anything more themselves?  Those people who love you tend to transfer their own biases and fears onto the people around them.  That’s when we are faced with a really tough decision.  Sometimes we reach a time when we have to limit our exposure to some of the people we love the most.

Your best friend means well but every time you are around them, they criticize your new business or constantly give you negative feedback.  Limit your exposure to that person for a while.  I remember an email that went around some years ago talking about how some people are in your life for a reason, for a season.  Meaning, that your commonality may change over time and you drift apart.  It’s OK!  We make new friends that enter our lives during each new “season”.

When friends and family are causing stress in your life, you don’t stop loving them or totally cut them out of your life.  You may have to limit the amount of time you spend with them until they understand that you have what it takes to fight for what you deserve.  No one is saying that’s not difficult.  The question is what are you willing to do to achieve your goals?  Notice I didn’t say dreams!

Do you believe?!

I believe that the crabs don’t mean you any harm.  Typically, they only want the best for you.  The crabs just don’t have dreams and goals that align with yours right now.  Love ’em and leave ’em!  Spend time but keep it to a minimum while you are achieving your goals.  Leave them for a while when they start to pull you back down.  Only you know them well enough to know when it’s OK to be blunt and tell them why you are limiting your time.  Doing that may actually help them understand that they are stuck in that bucket!

What do you believe?  Is your goal a worthy one?  Do you deserve success, however you define that?

I highly recommend that you read “Secrets of the Millionaire Mind” by T Harv Eker.  If get the chance to attend one of his Millionaire Mind Intensive sessions, you will never regret it!

Quick!  Make a break for it before they pull you back in!

Make it a great day,


P.S,  What am I thankful for today?  I’m thankful for new friends.  I’m thankful for the people who give me moral support.  I’m thankful God gave me the ability to decide for myself.

What are you thankful for today?