Your Success Is A Stone’s Throw Away

Do you have the stones for success? Imagine yourself as David in the story of David and Goliath. Anyone can have the stones for success. It’s all in how you choose to view the challenges.

You Determine Your Success

Success is different for everyone. Don’t get caught in comparing yourself and your level of success to others. Look at where you are and where you want to go. Measure the changes you make against those markers. You need to determine what success is for yourself. Next, you have to face your fears and challenges and decide what to do from there.

Success could be:

Networking. People you know like and trust.Figure out what success is for you, open your mind to new possibilities and then jump! There’s no  dipping your toe in the pool to see if it’s warm enough. It’s not. But, if you jump right in, you will adjust and get comfortable with the environment over time. Occasionally it can be like a glacier fed lake, you will need to get out quick and go find another pool to jump into. Most successful entrepreneurs have started more than one business venture and failed their way to success.

Do You Have The Stones To Succeed?

In the biblical story of David and Goliath, the Israelis were terrified of facing Goliath. He was bigger, had a history as a conqueror and was intimidating in his full battle dress. No one believed that David could take down Goliath.

I’m guessing there are prospects who felt like that to many people in sales. You belong to a MLM company and they said you weren’t in sales? They lied. No matter where you work or what business you are in, you are selling something.

What are you selling?

  • Convincing your kids to eat something new.
  • Getting your spouse to agree with you. (Tell me that doesn’t happen often!)
  • Presenting an idea for change at work.
  • The list could go on…

We are selling most of our day and, like the Israelis in David’s time, we don’t see it that way. Change the perspective and you change the outcome. When we understand that we are selling, our approach changes. Selling requires finding a different way of helping people buy from you. In past, all a business had to do was get their product or service on TV and radio to get people’s attention. Most new products and ideas were original, had no competition and just needed to create an awareness of their existence.

Do you have the stones to succeed?!

The world has changed. There isn’t much that is new and original any more. The widgets may be different shapes and colours and be packaged differently but they are still widgets. Like David and his stones, we need to find a different way to attack or deliver our message.

Today, we like to deal with people we know, like and trust. To do that, we need to get over our self doubts and change how we see our world. This means getting over our fears and facing challenges or opportunities head on. Think outside the box like David did with Goliath. Find the chink in the armor and use your stones!

Make it a great day,

Barry

P.S. What am I thankful for today? I’m thankful for Carey Nieuwhof who presents old ideas in new ways. I’m thankful for opportunity. I’m thankful for each new day.

What are you thankful for today?

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Fear of Failure or Fear of Success?

We all have fear. The question is what are we afraid of? We often confuse the fear of failure with the real fear. We are terribly afraid of success, afraid of what we may have to leave behind.

Fear of Failure

First, the fear of failure is different for everyone. How do we define failure?

Business woman with a briefcase.Once upon a time, you could expect to land a job, work there for many years and retire with a decent pension. Today, that’s not a realistic expectation. The loss of a job is inevitable so this should be an expectation that is planned for and it’s by no means failure. Embrace the loss of a job as the next step in life and an opportunity for growth.

Money comes and goes. Yes, it’s necessary to a degree and certainly makes life easier when you have ample amounts. Losing it may be an opportunity for growth. Look at Donald Trump!

When a relationship fails, we have an opportunity to look inside ourselves and learn what needs to change. It’s likely there needs to be some behavioural changes. Maybe not as much about how we act towards others but adjusting what we will accept from others.

Respect is a tough one. Give respect to get respect, to and from yourself as much as others. Is the issue respecting yourself and others, or others respecting you? Again, time to look to the root cause and decide what the growth opportunity is. Once we define how the respect was lost, changes can be made to earn it back. Difficult, yes. Impossible, no.

Fear of Success

  • Creates high expectations.
  • May out grow some friends.
  • Family members may resent you.
  • I don’t want to be like “those” people.

Success creates high expectations. We feel we must maintain certain productivity and income levels. We have to always have to have the best of everything. We always have to be “on our game”. When we falter and have a bad day, others are watching and often quick to point out the errors. Is being imperfect a failure? No, It’s a chance to learn and grow.

By Nicole Shapiro

By Nicole Shapiro

When we achieve success, we sometimes have to put some relationships “on the back burner” or maybe even leave past relationships behind. There will be crabs in your life that you just can’t afford to be exposed to.

Family members don’t resent you. They resent your success because they can no longer afford to do the things you do. Give them the opportunity to participate when you can. Can you invite them to be part of your business?

Why is it that we associate success and money with evil? Yes, there are bad rich people. Just as there are bad poor people. Money and success didn’t make them that way. How you treat people is up to you. I have a friend that is very successful and makes a great deal of money. Her and her partners built an orphanage in Guatemala and she spends four months a year working there with young children. Does her success make her bad?

Embrace success and the change it brings. Use your success to help others, whether by providing financial support or leading them to find their own success.

What are your fears?

Turn and face your fears head on. Where there is foundation, seek a solution that will put your fears to rest. Maybe you need to find another source of income or you need to seek further education. Do that.

No foundation for the fears? By facing them, you now know they can’t hurt you. Change what you are doing or get the education you need. Turn your attention toward the future, allow yourself to experience your beautiful dreams and make them become realities.

Make it a great day!

Barry

P.S. What am I thankful for today?

I’m thankful for spring sunshine. I’m thankful for opportunities to grow. I’m thankful for all the people who have touched my life,

What are you thankful for today?

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There’s no win in comparison!

The comparison trap.

Comparison.  We all do it to try and figure out if we are OK.  As long as we are comparing ourselves to others, we’ll never be satisfied.

We all want more “er” in our lives.  I wish I was smarter, prettier, luckier and/or richer.  Look at all the “er’s” in that list.  Now, think about this.  If your child came to you and said “I wish I was prettier or smarter” what would you say to them? Continue reading

Feel the fear!

And then conquer it.

 

Starting a business or asking your boss for a raise are a couple of examples of fears that we may face. It could just as easily be a difficult conversation with an associate or family member.

 

Don’t deny the fear. It’s real. Feel it and then face it head on. Look the object of your fear directly in the face and you will soon discover that, although the fear is very real and very scary, you can’t just turn away and hope it will move past you. Fear is like the bullies in your life. It will taunt you every day until one day you just have had enough and wrestle that fear to the ground.

 

Have you ever noticed that when you take a bully on, they often turn and run? Or they actually end up becoming your friend?

 

Facing your fear will not always feel good or necessarily end up with the outcome you hoped for but in the end, there will be a clear resolution and you can move on.

 

Don’t get stuck. Feel the fear, face it and then move on.

 

For all of the scary stuff out there, there is something much more wonderful just the other side!

 

Make it a great day!

 

Barry

 

P.S.
Things I’m thankful for today: I woke up this morning! I have a great family. I have the power to make my destiny.

 
What are you thankful for today?

Do you have crabs? (No, not that kind!)

I’m referring to the story about crabs in a bucket!

Crabs in a bucket.

By Nicole Shapiro

By Nicole Shapiro

When you put a bunch of crabs in a bucket, they will try to climb out.  If one starts to get some traction, the rest will grab on and end up pulling the first one back down.

When you are a person who has the motivation to change their situation, it’s often family and friends that become the crabs in your life.  They’re the voices that get stuck in your head asking:

  • “Isn’t that really risky?” or
  • “What if it doesn’t work?” or
  • “Isn’t that one of those pyramid schemes?”.

Don’t let them pull you back down!

Difficult choices.

Who will you believe?  When you look at the position those same people are in, have they achieved anything more themselves?  Those people who love you tend to transfer their own biases and fears onto the people around them.  That’s when we are faced with a really tough decision.  Sometimes we reach a time when we have to limit our exposure to some of the people we love the most.

Your best friend means well but every time you are around them, they criticize your new business or constantly give you negative feedback.  Limit your exposure to that person for a while.  I remember an email that went around some years ago talking about how some people are in your life for a reason, for a season.  Meaning, that your commonality may change over time and you drift apart.  It’s OK!  We make new friends that enter our lives during each new “season”.

When friends and family are causing stress in your life, you don’t stop loving them or totally cut them out of your life.  You may have to limit the amount of time you spend with them until they understand that you have what it takes to fight for what you deserve.  No one is saying that’s not difficult.  The question is what are you willing to do to achieve your goals?  Notice I didn’t say dreams!

Do you believe?!

I believe that the crabs don’t mean you any harm.  Typically, they only want the best for you.  The crabs just don’t have dreams and goals that align with yours right now.  Love ’em and leave ’em!  Spend time but keep it to a minimum while you are achieving your goals.  Leave them for a while when they start to pull you back down.  Only you know them well enough to know when it’s OK to be blunt and tell them why you are limiting your time.  Doing that may actually help them understand that they are stuck in that bucket!

What do you believe?  Is your goal a worthy one?  Do you deserve success, however you define that?

I highly recommend that you read “Secrets of the Millionaire Mind” by T Harv Eker.  If get the chance to attend one of his Millionaire Mind Intensive sessions, you will never regret it!

Quick!  Make a break for it before they pull you back in!

Make it a great day,

Barry

P.S,  What am I thankful for today?  I’m thankful for new friends.  I’m thankful for the people who give me moral support.  I’m thankful God gave me the ability to decide for myself.

What are you thankful for today?