You owe me!! (Not the brightest thing to say.)

Have you ever had someone say “You owe me!”?  I have to say that’s not the brightest comment to make.

 

WHAT IS YOUR MOTIVE?

man-carrying-boxCharitable actions require no acknowledgement or they are not truly charitable.  For example, you notice someone struggling at work and offer to assist them.  They accept your offer but don’t say thank you.  Yes, it’s rude but to come back to them and say “You owe me one” is worse.  What appeared to be charitable on your part actually had a price.  That’s not charitable.

I appreciated your help but forgot my manners.  When people are under great stress like someone struggling with losing a child, that can happen.  When my son was fighting cancer, neighbours brought food and helped in various ways.  I don’t remember if I said thank you for everything.  I like to think I did but there is no way I could guarantee that.  Do I owe you?  Yes.   Should you expect anything?  NO!!

I don’t know about you but when I hear “you owe me”, my back goes straight up.  If I had known there was a cost, I may have declined your offer.  When you expect something in return, it’s no longer a gift.  You’re fishing for something from me and I’m not sure if I’m willing to pay your price.

 

HOPE VERSUS EXPECTATION

When I share ideas or offer assistance, I have no expectations.  I do have hope.

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It’s my hope that:

  • I can provide a bright spot in your day to help put a smile on your face.
  • I can share resources and ideas that you can use to find whatever success means for you.
  • I may lead you to something that may improve your circumstances.
  • I may lighten your load so that you can focus on the important things in life.
  • You find it in your heart to #payitforward

I’ll be honest.  My giving is selfish.  I take pleasure in helping others find peace with themselves and finding their success.  It’s up to them to decide what that is.  When I see others achieve personal growth through something or someone I introduced them to, there is a sense of satisfaction for me.  Thank you is a great way to acknowledge the actions but not necessary.  I got what I wanted when you achieved your goal.

If you ever hear me use the words “you owe me”, please stomp on my foot or something!  It’s rude, ignorant and destroys trust.  Not really a great way to earn loyalty.

 

Make it a great day!

Barry

P.S.  What am I thankful for today?  I’m thankful for all the people who have provided assistance or moral support throughout my life.  I’m thankful for the people that have allowed me to help when I can.  I’m thankful for every opportunity God gives me for personal growth.

What are you thankful for today?