We all carry junk. Whether it’s the person that just cut you off on the way to a meeting or you just had a fight with your partner, leave your junk in the trunk!
What Do You Mean By Junk?
When I talk about junk, I’m referring to all that negative stuff that gathers throughout our day.
- Your partner is mad at you because you didn’t put out the garbage
- Your teenager is mad at you because you said no!
- You’re mad at your business partners because you don’t like the direction they want to go.
- You were just pulled over speeding on the way to your meeting.
In the grand scheme of things, how much of this really matters? I don’t see how much of the above is really life threatening or changing. I have to say, for the most part, it’s just junk. Junk happens.
Some of us seem to go out looking for junk to collect. Others seem to attract it. Either way, most of us have certain amounts of junk in our lives. Whatever you do, don’t look in my garage! The biggest challenge is deciding what junk to keep and where to put it.
Imagine one of those days when you are late leaving for an important meeting. You are presenting to your team who looks to you to set the example. Half way out the door, you spill coffee on your white shirt. Now you have lost 10 minutes changing. The time pressure causes you to put a little pressure on the gas pedal and the cop behind you doesn’t think it’s a good idea. There goes another 20 minutes and likely more than a few dollars. Now you’re mad!
Junk In The Trunk
Remember, the most important element in leadership is duplication. Whatever you do, there is a good chance they will copy. It’s quite OK to get mad, even healthy. The trick is to learn how to put it away when it’s in the way.
Imagine you have decided to clean out the car because you are taking prospects or clients to your meeting. Inevitably, we find a lot of junk we didn’t even realize was in there. All of a sudden you realize you only have a few minutes before you have to leave. You have a bag full of junk but you don’t have time to sort it out for recycle, resell or reuse. What to do? Put your junk in the trunk. Deal with it after the meeting is over and there is no one around to see you dealing with your junk.
The Direction of Junk
Never dump your junk downward. Just as you shouldn’t expect your kids to clean up your mess, you shouldn’t expect the people you are training to deal with your junk.
For example, my wife and I work as a team. There are times when we agree to clean up after each other in order to achieve a combined goal. Unless the kids have been working directly with me and contributed to the mess, I don’t ask them to clean it up. That just creates resentment and then perpetuates the problem for generations to come. On the other hand, it’s quite OK for my kids to come to me for help when they just feel overwhelmed and can’t figure something out.
It’s the same in business, MLM or otherwise. We are directors in our business. If I need to dump on someone, it’s executive director or higher. It’s their responsibility to help me work through things when I feel overwhelmed and yes, sometimes it may be personal. I will do the same for the people who look up to me for leadership.
Make it a great day,
P.S. What am I thankful for today? I’m thankful for great leadership, great business partners and each new day. What are you thankful for today?