From Step Dad to Father…

To all the estranged Fathers out there…

You’re the example.

Over the years you managed to set the example.  Kindness and understanding.  Respect for the feelings and needs of the kids regardless of your own desire for every moment you can have together.  Civility to the other parents, even though that’s the last thing you wanted to do!  The kids know.

They know you wanted to be there but appreciate the efforts you made to let them have a normal life.

You Did A Great Job!

You couldn’t be there every day but they knew you wanted to be.  I always told them I couldn’t be their father, but I was proud to be Dad when they needed me to be.

Sometimes adult relationships don’t work out.  We all start with great intentions but sometimes, it’s better to part.  When there are children involved, it’s especially painful.  Christmas time really emphasizes the distance.  Just because Father can’t be there physically every moment doesn’t mean they are not there in spirit.

You managed to be kind to Mom and the kids respect that.  As a result, they know you care.

Was it worth it?

You never know how you did until you see them as a parent themselves.  What’s the old cliche?  The proof is in the pudding!

God forbid, their own relationships don’t work but we can only hope they do what is best for their own children.

Absolutely, it was worth it!

Thank you for doing the best you could and having patience with me.

Merry Christmas and make it a great day!


P.S.  What am I thankful for today?  I’m thankful I could help you raise wonderful children.  I’m thankful to share a grand child with you.  I’m thankful I could be there to help pick up the pieces.

What are you thankful for today?