Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

We face many challenges throughout our lives that will shape our future depending on how we respond to them. I came across this a few years ago and I just can’t say it better myself:

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water. In the first, she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs and the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.

Turning to her daughter, she asked, “Tell me what do you see?”

“Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” she replied.

She brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. She then asked her to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg. Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled, as she tasted its rich aroma.

The daughter then asked. “What does it mean, mother?”

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity—boiling water—but each reacted differently.

The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.

The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior. But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.

The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water they had changed the water.

“Which are you?” she asked her daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?”

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity, do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and a hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor.

If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate to another level?

How do you handle Adversity? Are you a Carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?

Are You a Carrot, An Egg, or a Coffee Bean?



Make it a great day!



What am I thankful for today? I’m thankful that my son will be home soon. I’m thankful my daughter is back at school safe and sound. I’m thankful for my wife who helped create this beautiful life!

Pivot points. We all have them!

Pivot points are those challenges and/or moments we face throughout our lives that cause us to take inventory and consider which direction to head into next.

Pivot point, birth of a child.Examples of pivot points.

Pivotal moments are usually those times when we are faced with a great loss or the potential of something that could lead to causing us pain.

  • Birth of a child.
  • Death of a child (yes, we experienced that).
  • Job loss (yep, that too).
  • Marital breakup.
  • Mid-life crisis.

This list could go on and on.

Making choices.

When we are faced with a pivot point, we are forced to make a choice.  How will you  interpret the experience?  Catastrophe or opportunity?  Now you have to make some decisions on what to do next.  That choice will lead you to the next pivot point.  Life takes so many turns, there is no way to predict where you will end up.

It’s like when I was a kid and we would all load up in the car.  Dad would start driving and we would each take a turn on which direction to take next.  We never knew where we would up!  Could be the countryside and enjoying the scenery or could be the local dairy for ice cream.  Somehow, I think Dad managed to have us choose the “right” direction!

Like life, it was more about the journey, not the destination.  There was excitement in not knowing where we would end up!

In your business.

Think about this like “chunking”.  Your business is one area of your life.  Looking at that, it too has pivot points.

Let’s say you are in marketing.  In years past, it was about pushing your message out to the masses.  Then along comes social media and not as many people or companies are looking for print ads or TV commercials.  This is the time of attraction marketing.  You have reached another pivot point in your business.  Will you give up and walk away or will you do what it takes to shift your focus to the new way of doing things?

Your business is like each component of your life.  Each comes to different pivot points at different times.

What will you choose?

  • Will you treat every misadventure as catastrophe or opportunity?
  • Will you accept that the result is because of your choice, not what someone else did or said?
  • Are you willing to let God guide you in making your choices?

We are all given free will.  With that comes the responsibility for your actions.  Yes, “stuff” happens.  It’s what you do when you reach that pivot point that makes all the difference.

This video has a great piece on this subject.  Amazing how much of a parallel there is between business principles and the bible!  Listen to how Carey Nieuwhof explains Pivot Points.


Make it a great day!


P.S.  What am I thankful for today?  I’m thankful for open minded people.  I’m thankful for every new opportunity.  I’m thankful for the support of friends and family.

What are you thankful for today?

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